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An Added Blessing {1+1=4?}

on July 18, 2012 by Jami Balmet 56 comments

We are pregnant with our first baby, due January 17, 2013. I had my first ultrasound at 11 weeks. We got to see our precious baby for the first time.

We were overjoyed to see our baby for the first time! We got to see him/her jump and move around so amazing. Right before entering the ultrasound room I told the doctor that my Dad is a twin and we were kinda of hoping it could be twins

My doctor told me that my Dad being a twin doesn’t have much to do with it. We got into the ultrasound and saw it was one baby and forgot about my “twin” theory right away. The doctor said “Well only one baby. Although it’s rare, ย a second baby could be hiding and may show up later”. She said this as if she didn’t believe it, and neither did we. We were content with our beautiful one baby ๐Ÿ™‚

Fast forward a few weeks and I’m now 13 weeks pregnant. I came in for our second ultrasound on Monday 7/16 just to make sure baby was doing okay and to measure to confirm the due date.

I was excited to get to see our baby again. But my husband just started a new job and can’t take off that much time so I told him he didn’t need to come to this ultrasound since he was just at one 2 weeks ago. He was going to come to the next one instead (where we find out the gender).

BIG mistake. My husband should have been there. We get ready for the ultrasound and the doctor touches my stomach with the wand, before I look at the screen she asks me if I have already had an ultrasound with this pregnancy.

Yes ๐Ÿ™‚ She responds “Okay good, so you know it’s two?” TWO? “Yes, two.” TWINS??

And sure enough…there are two sweet and precious babies growing inside my tummy.

I got to see both precious babies moving and jumping around inside. Apparently it is extremelyย rare for twins to be missed on an ultrasound but I guess it happens lol.

The really funny part is that for YEARS, I have been saying that I am going to have twin girls. I remember a couple years ago when my hubby and Iย seriouslyย started talking about having kids, my mom and I researched theย likelihoodย of me having twins. Fraternal twins (non-identical) are genetic and get passed down through the generations.ย We found out that twins tend to skip a generation (my grandmother had twins, skipped my dad’s generation and comes back with my generation).

But even with that, no one else in my family has had twins and it was extremelyย unlikely. Plus twins are more common if you have had multiple children (this is our first), are older (I’m 22), and are overweight (I’m not). The chances of twins was still extremely low. I just always got it into my head that I wanted twins and always said I would lol. The Lord does answer prayers.

The really incredible part about this is theย significanceย to our family. My Dad lost his twin when they were 17 years old. In a tragic accident, my grandmother lost her youngest son of 6 children and my Dad lost his best friend and his twin. It has always been very hard on my family and there is something very beautiful about my Dad’s oldest child and only daughter having twins.

Guess I need to change this picture:

And I know that we have some twin mommies out there so I need your help! Do you have any good twin blogs you read? Or books and articles? Please pass them on, I need to start preparing ๐Ÿ˜€

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  1. I’m happy for you and what an exciting surprise! I’m wondering why you had 2 ultrasounds already and so early? Do you have a medical condition or this standard procedure now? I only ever had one w/my daughter 16 years ago at 20 weeks for gender and growth measurements and two w/my son because of previous history of miscarriages. The first one to confirm growth and the 2nd at 20 weeks for gender and growth measurements. I absolutely loved being pregnant and wish we had not ruined our chances at having more by doing things our way instead of God’s way years ago!


    • Thanks, we are still in a little shock but really excited!! ๐Ÿ™‚ No, I don’t have any medical conditions. I think it’s standard to have more ultrasounds now. But for us, we were not quite sure on the due date so at my first appointment she took a quick peek at the ultrasound (when we only saw one baby) to confirm that what we thought was true. The second ultrasound (where we found out it was twins) was the regularly scheduled one to take measurements of the baby and make sure everything is going good. This is also the one where they do all that genetic screening and stuff but we refused that. But I’ll have a lot more ultrasounds and screenings now that we know it’s twins lol. Me and the babies are higher risk now.

  2. Jami, your last picture made me laugh out loud. ๐Ÿ˜€ As I’ve said….I am THRILLED for you and Jason and so happy at this wonderful answer to prayer! God is so incredibly awesome! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. My mom found out she was having twins in the delivery room–after she’d already delivered one! My bleary-eyed father had to announce that the baby had, “20 fingers and 20 toes.”

    My mom’s advice is to keep twins separate but equal. She has always been very careful to show them that they are both just as loved by doing everything for one that she does for the other. But she has always done her best to value their separate identities.

    What to Expect also has a great section on parenting twins.

    Twins are supposed to be more than twice the work, so good luck!

    • Wow, I can’t believe that she didn’t find out until the delivery room! Today, they say only 3% of twins go undetected until delivery but that still seems crazy! Thanks for the advice! I already read the part about twins in What to Expect ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. Congratulations! That is exciting and touching for you and your family. God works in such beautiful, amazing, and restoring ways!

  5. Congratulations!!! I had twins NO. 3 & 4 & they have been such a wonderful blessing. For your pregnancy ~ take it easy & don’t push yourself. Listen to your body & when you need to rest do so. If you have any concerns don’t be afraid to take them to your dr even if you don’t have an appointment ( my lesson after our TTTS when I should have gone to the dr a week earlier with my concerns rather than wait until I went into premature labour). Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy every day, every minute ~ it all goes much too quickly. My boys are 6 now & I’ve just started them schooling ( we home school) & it seems no time since they were born!
    Blessings to you & your family

    • So nice to meet a fellow mommy of twins ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m doing pretty good so far but can already tell that I’ll have to slow down soon. I plan on taking all the rest I can before the babies come! Thank you for the advice! I’m sure I’ll be at the doctor more than I need to be ๐Ÿ˜‰ Although thankfully, I don’t think TTTS is a risk with fraternal twins. Thanks for the encouragement today!!

  6. I am afraid I can’t offer any advice on twins. I would recommend the book “On becoming babywise”. It is all about eating and sleeping and flexible routine. It has a chapter about twins in it. It doesn’t suit everyone but we have found having a flexible routine the only way to survive (we have 5 children 8 and under)!!

    Mainly wanted to say a HUGE CONGRATULATIONS, CONGRATULATIONS (one for each babe!)
    God bless,

    • I second the recomendation of “On Becoming Babywise”. My sister used it with her twins and then passed it on to me when I had my first child. I haven’t followed everything to the letter but it was a huge help. (And I know there are differing opinions on the book’s methods– just take the parts that work for you and your children).

    • Hi Amy thanks! I have heard some great stuff about Babywise (but to keep things flexible still and not follow it rigidly). I definitely plan on getting them on a schedule ASAP! Thank you ๐Ÿ˜€

  7. Congratulations to you! You are in for an amazing adventure! I am a mom of four (twin boys sandwiched between two girls – all under 7) and can honestly say, I don’t remember a lot of their first year. Document anything and everything – I treasure the notes in my journal (even if they were a little incoherent), the crazy photos, and the stories my husband loves to tell about our sleep-deprived first year. With our boys, we make sure to let them each be themselves, whether it be their clothes or their plates! They are darling, amazing, and best buddies (most days). Motherhood itself is an amazing journey – but life with twins is a real rollercoaster! I wish I had more time back then to explore the internet and find other moms of multiples – unfortunately, I didn’t – but always remember to follow your instincts. Treasure every moment because they grow up so fast! Thanks for sharing your life with us readers and congrats again!

    • Thank you!! Wow, you really have your hands full! We are thankful that the twins will be our first. Thank you for that advice!! I am already trying to plan ways to document their early days as well as document different things about each of them (especially if it is 2 boys or 2 girls).

  8. I saw all your posts on Pinterest and had to come check your blog to see if I’d missed an announcement! WOW! Congratulations!!! I’m a twin (fraternal) so this is very cool. I hope you have some close friends or family who can help when the babies come… my mom says she was a “zombie” for the first year with my brother and I because two babies are so much more work. (My younger brother, on the other hand, was a “breeze” after having two.) Anyways, congrats, that’s cool! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Haha that’s how someone else found out too, Pinterest! I have been pinning twin stuff like crazy ๐Ÿ˜‰ That’s so neat, I didn’t realize you were a twin!! We have LOTS of help, thankfully. I don’t think I’ll get to hold the babies for a few weeks after their born since so many family are nearby and so excited ๐Ÿ˜‰ Haha well that’s good to know, our next baby will be easy ๐Ÿ˜‰

  9. Congratulations!!! I have a twin sister (we blog together) and being a twin is one of God’s biggest blessings in our lives. Babies are such precious blessings from God!

  10. we have two sets of twins, both sets in heaven through miscarriage. on the second set, the twin was missed in the first ultrasound. the doctor didn’t want to believe me about losing two babies, saying the ultrasound would ‘never miss two babies’. he was wrong…. although i do believe it is rare to miss a baby on ultrasound. depends on the positioning though. anyway, congratulations to you. make sure to find some good nutritional info and follow a ‘twin diet’ for the extra dietary needs of pregnancy.

    • Wow, yeah that is what happened to us! I can’t believe that one can be missed. I am so sorry for your losses! I am trying to eat healthy and do what I can, thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

    • We are so excited and can’t wait to meet our baby boys!! ๐Ÿ˜€ So cute that you have twin boys as well ๐Ÿ™‚ I am going to check out your blog right now!

  11. Hi! I’m the mom of 13 month old identical girls. Having twins is hard, but I could not even imagine life any differently. Like most people have said, trust your instinct, do what you think is best. Listen to lots of advice, then do what you want to do. Twins are SO MUCH FUN! Good luck! Enjoy every minute of it! You will find that you can do more than you ever imagined as you take care of those sweet boys!
    The book Ready or Not: Here We Come! is a good, fun read if you have some free time.

    • Aaw twin girls, so cute! ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh your little girls are SO adorable!! I just went over to your blog and saw some pictures. How precious!! ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thank you for the advice ๐Ÿ™‚ I so appreciate hearing from other twin mommmies since I don’t know many in real life! Thank you, I will check out that book!!

  12. Oh congratulations!! I have 4 month old identical twin boys and I have to tell you that it’s much easier than I had anticipated. If these are your first babies like us, you won’t know any different so it’ll be your new normal. I can’t say I liked the ‘Babywise’ book or the ‘Happiest Baby on the Block’. I thought they were both too generic. I really liked Secrets of the Baby Whisperer because she emphasized that you should know your baby and be able to pick up on body signals, which is so important with tiny preemies, which most twins tend to be. Not overstimulating was a big one for us, along with no children over to visit for the first few months (sorry, too many germs) and strict hand washing as soon as everyone came into the house. Even if they say they don’t plan on holding the babies, they always touch the baby’s hands and the baby puts their hands in their mouth. Don’t worry about offending anyone, just keep those babies home and healthy for the first 3 months. We have not had one day of sickness so far and I credit our vigilance about not taking them out too much and the hand washing rules. Also, a big one is keeping the babies on the same schedule. If one baby wakes up to eat in the middle of the night, then feed the other one right afterwards so they stay on schedule together. The BEST book that has been a lifesaver has been ’12 hours sleep by 12 weeks old’. Best best best book! We started at 10 weeks with the boys and they are now sleeping almost 11 hours every night. Serious sanity saver and no crying it out! Most important, follow your instincts. These are your babies. You’ll know what feels right for you. Congratulations again, I’m so excited for you!!

    • Thank you Anna!!! How sweet ๐Ÿ™‚ That is SO wonderful to hear!! People who have single babies only give us the “sympathy” look when we tell them it’s twins lol!! They act like it’s going to be unmanageable but my husband and I are really excited! ๐Ÿ˜€ Yes, these are our first babies so I think we should settle into a good routine since we don’t know any different!

      I am almost done with Babywise. I actually like it! I don’t know a whole lot about breastfeeding to I appreciate a lot of the basic information on establishing routines (I wasn’t even really sure how often or much newborns should eat lol!!). Thank you, I will check that book out!

      Thanks for the great advise. I’m tucking this information all away for later ๐Ÿ™‚ And yes, that’s the same advice I have gotten from other twin moms: put them on the same schedule! That’s our first goal. So I’ll wake them up to each together and stuff like that until hopefully they get on the same schedule without me doing it ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for the encouragement and advice!! I so appreciate it ๐Ÿ™‚ We are getting so excited to meet our little boys!

      How many weeks did you deliver at and how big where they??

  13. Wow. What a blessing. Twins are amazing. I am an identical twin an I am married to an identical twin. My husband lost his twin brother to a motorcycle accident 7 years ago. We have now been married for 6 months. I tell myself we will have identical twin boys one day. That would be a real blessing for us. Congrats on your beautiful family ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Thanks Sherelle!! Wow, you are surrounded by a lot of twins too ๐Ÿ˜‰ My dad is a fraternal twin and lost his brother then they were only 17! So tough! Twins are such a blessing <3