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Trusting Your Plans to the Lord Part 1

on April 26, 2012 by Jami Balmet 15 comments

Our story

My husband and I married young. We met just days before my husband graduated highschool. I was 16 when we met. He was 18.

We began dating when I was 17 and not too shortly after that we left for college. I was 18 and he was 20 as we headed off to a Christian college. I came in as a freshman and he transferred in as a junior.

At the time, we were in love, and knew we would be getting married soon. But we had moved 8 hours away from our family. We were sad, but knew it was only for a short time, and before anyone knew it we would be moving back again.

Two months later we were engaged, and 7 months later, at the ripe old ages of 19 and 21, we were married.

Life changes

A year later my husband graduated college at 22, got a great job and starting working towards his career.

At this point we started getting home sick. We started dreaming about starting a family, and knew that we needed to get back home to live near family.

We began activelty looking for a way for my husband to get a job near our family. I was even ready to drop my classes and finish up at a different school, or not finish. I didn’t really care. I was just ready to get back near family. But the months dragged on.

No job. No hopes to transfer.

We realized how lucky and fortunate we were that my husband was well on his way to building his career. Well, not lucky, it was all by God’s hand! Many people we know who are graduating college right now have no job prospects, and simply cannot figure out a way to start a career.

And here my husband is in his career, doing something that he loves, and moving up the ladder, and God completely handed it to him.

So we took a step back, recognized God’s hand working (though we couldn’t see the outcome yet), and tried to make peace with where God had us. I made peace that I would finish my degree and THEN maybe God would move us.

So a year later I finished my bachelor’s degree (I completed my degree in 3 years, Praise the Lord!!), and then my wheels started turning. Okay, Lord! I’m done with school! We are ready to move now please. But no, God had other plans for us.

Trusting God through challenges

I started working full time the week I graduated college (again PRAISE the Lord), and got a promotion of sorts a few months later. Then I entered what I call “the dark period”. I started a new job that I had a really hard time at to say the least. Four days out of the week I barely made it to my car before bursting into tears, calling my husband in a whirl of emotions that he couln’t understand, and start to drive home already dreading having to go to work the next day.

I was in a whirl of anxiety and near depression. I KNEW there was a reason for the turmoil and I read stories in scripture like Job and memorized scripture to help (Luke 12:22-31), and God helped me to break my sin and deal with my anxiety. But I still had trouble with it up until my last day of work.

The Lord was gracious and led me to a new fabulous job.  After 3 1/2 months of interviews I started a new job that I love!

Finally my anxiety broke and I could be me again. The Lord was gracious and patient with me through my sinful anxiety and distrust, and grew me during that time to understand the difficulties of anxiety.

I started the job and have loved it! We finally started talking about having kids. We started planning and knew we could start trying this year. My husband was working toward a promotion at work this summer.

We finally dug our heels in and made good lasting friendships. We finally started feeling setteled. Once my husband took this promotion there would be no moving for at least 3-5 years. The promotion was promised in about 3 months and looked extremely likely.

Then we got the call. A job promotion was open near our family….

Read Part 2 of Trusting Your Plans to the Lord 


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  1. I love your sweet blog. And your story! I’m new here so — I can’t wait to hear what’s next! 😉

    I understand being miserable where you are……I’m in that struggle right now. And I’m old, not young like you!

    • Hi Wanda, thank you! Aah it can be horrible to be trapped in a situation where you don’t know what to do and feel TRAPPED. That’s how I felt for about six months…and during that time I learned a LOT about waiting on God’s timing and being content with what he has given me. The book of Job also really helped me with that since my “trouble” was no where near as bad as Job’s life.

  2. God has been working in my life in a similar way. Very few things in our married life have gone the way we planned them out. God has slowly been bringing me to the realization that His plans are far superior than any plans I could have dreamed up. I don’t know what our future holds but I know who holds our future and I’m resting in His hands.

    • That’s how it goes. We plan and plan and plan and then God steps in and changes everything. Sometimes it seems great and other times we don’t understand what God is doing….trying to learn patience and have faith throughout those times. That is a great realization to come too! We have slowly been coming to that as well! SLOWLY lol.

  3. I have learned (and continue to) that the Lord does have plans for us. My plans are to be able to stay at home full time- I see how that could be possible with the Lord’s direction, favor and blessing and am working on stepping out in faith because all things ARE possible through our God! 🙂 I look forward to reading the rest of your story! Love the graduation photos.

    Nicole at Working Kansas Homemaker

  4. I love your article.

    I do have a problem with one thing though- sinful anxiety? I don’t understand that. Anxiety is not even mentioned in the ten commandments, therefore, how can it be a sin?
    I do want to trust my life’s path to God more, but I can’t help worrying about it. I’m a worrier and a planner. Being an army wife, and having moved so often throughout my childhood, I feel like I can never be at peace until I settle down in one place and get a chance to relax. I feel like I have to do so much in order to get us there next year.

    If I sat by and did nothing, nothing would ever happen. I think God requires some effort on our part in order to have good things in life. Jobs and opportunities don’t come easily to most of us. It takes months of endless searching and fruitless applications until you find something halfway decent.

    I’m thankful for what I have. I just feel like I have to work in order to get myself where I want to be. And with work comes anxiety. I don’t think it’s a sin to take your life seriously. I think we’re all human and we shouldn’t bash ourselves for things we can’t really control. 🙂