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The Beauty of Femininity

on February 25, 2014 by Jami Balmet 19 comments

If you google femininity or something similar, most of what you come across is a jumble of feminist propaganda, goddess earth worship, and how to be a seductive woman.

The world has claimed what being feminine means and twisted it into ways that are thoroughly unrecognizable from the Biblical view of femininity.

The Beauty of Femininity

Women as more powerful (intellectually and “spiritually”), women as seductresses (celebrating this!), and women as the goddesses of this earth that flow with an internal “feminine” pagan strength…that is what being feminine is to the world. Being a woman is all about spiritual power and strength, but not in a Biblical sense.

Or we hear the opposite message: that femininity is negative. In movies, the “girly feminine” character is the air head cheerleader who is concerned about her nails chipping and the how she looks. Ironically, feminism has so warped our view of what it means to be a feminine woman that the culture would have women look, act, think, and dress no differently from men.

Women don’t want to be called feminine because it draws up an image of an earthly goddess seductress or a weak, passive and identity-less woman.

This is what the world thinks of when they hear feminine. Femininity has morphed and changed over the years. Being a woman who loves her children, loves her husband and proudly manages her home was once a treasured role within our society.

Sadly the Biblcal role of being a feminine woman has faded into the background and largely been lost by the modern church. But being a feminine, Godly woman is something to be treasured.

God designed men and woman to be different, and rather than try and merge those into one role, we should celebrate our differences because it means we all become stronger and can serve God better with our complimentary gifts.

Being a Biblical woman who pursues her feminine identity from the scriptures and not from society is a thing to be treasured and taught within the church.

I’m writing a devotional book on the subject of femininity to be released this summer. So I’m curious, what does femininity mean to YOU? What is Godly femininity and what do you think the world sees as feminine?

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  1. Oh, I just AGREE with your post here πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ I think your devotional sounds really interesting and I’m looking forward to reading it when it’s finished. I think real femininity is a woman who concerns herself with the things of Christ, the characterisitics of Christ etc πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Oh, and throw in Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 in there somewhere, too. It’s someone who looks at others through God’s eyes. Love and hugs from the ocean shores of California, Heather πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Heather, I’m very excited about it!! πŸ™‚ Yes, focuses on Christ! What a main element of what it means to be a Godly woman πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by Heather!! πŸ™‚

  2. Love this. Femininity the way God designed it is all but lost in our modern day culture. To me, the real meaning of femininity is a reflection of the Lord’s beauty, grace, and elegance through women who earnestly seek His will and love others with the love of Christ. A woman who embraces true femininity seeks the Lord’s discretion in every area of her life, guarding her heart, dressing modestly, creatively and diligently running her home, and studying and applying the Word to her daily actions. I believe the Lord’s initial vision for femininity is one that none of us can truly measure up to, which is why we so desperately need the grace of the cross.

    I have extensively studied this area over the years and am excited to hear what you have to say about it πŸ™‚ If you need somebody to bounce ideas off of, I’d be happy to help!

    • Shannon thank you! πŸ™‚ I agree, God’s design is mostly lost in our culture! All the more reason to talk about it as often as possible! It can be such a deep and rich topic once dug into! I love all of your example of Godly femininity!

      And thank you! You can expect a rough draft of my devotional in your inbox when I get to putting it together πŸ˜‰

  3. Femininity to me means a woman who is proud of the way God made her- and displays in a humble and loving way that she is different from a man, and that is how God made women! Femininity is celebrating being a woman and working to love our Maker and serve Him.

    Nicole at Working Kansas Homemaker

  4. This is great, Jami! I look forward to your devotional. Femininity is anything but weak and passive. We are created in the image of God! We reflect parts of God that a man cannot reflect, and the same for men. This is to be celebrated, not suppressed. I’m learning this – slowly but surely.

  5. To me, femininity means embracing my role as a wife and mother with an open heart. With grace. With conviction. It means taming my tongue and filtering my thoughts through the Lord before they result in a spoken word. Looking forward to your ebook!

  6. Just in skimming through this post (and I know I’m a year late and a dollar short), I suddenly wondered if you’ve heard of a project called “Beauty Redefined” and whether it would be of interest to you or not. I was introduced to it not so long ago, and love how it is striving to fight back against media and the common definitions of what “beautiful” and “feminine” mean.

  7. Love this!!! I find myself reading all these comments and nodding my head in response! I believe that femininity is all about embracing being a woman! For me that means baking amazing chocolate chip cookies, singing and dancing around the kitchen when I cook, rocking skirts and dresses, wearing fun shoes and carrying a great bag! It’s about enjoying who God created us to be, and letting our husbands be who God created them to be! I LIKE that we’re different – we’re not supposed to be the same! Something wonderful happens when we recognize that…

  8. Being feminine in the world today is exactly as you say. Most will look at a woman who has to have her hair and makeup just so, her clothes just right, and always has her nails done and blindly follows a man around to be feminine. Or at least thats the image I usually have in my mind when it comes to how the world sees it. But when I think of a truly “feminine” woman that is a godly woman, I see someone who is sweet, quiet but strong, gentle and loving, helpful in all areas, and who smiles all the time as if to say they have a joy that surpasses everything I could imagine. I have a couple of women at my church that I view in this way. They are definitely a rare and dying breed. We need to encourage one another to strive for this so that we can have more examples for the next generation of what young girls should strive to be and what young men should strive to protect.

  9. A different perspective here: To me, femininity (especially biblically-referenced femininity) means accepting the strength and gifts that God gave you. Yes, women in the bible were often wives and mothers and celebrated for keeping and managing their home. Many of them were also celebrated for their bold and courageous defense of their faith in Christ (Mary Magdalene), and even their business savvy outside the home (Proverbs 31 woman, who had business dealings outside of the home and separate from her husband’s ventures). When we whittle the title of “feminine” down to someone who wears dresses, raises children and cleans house, we only serve to confine women to these roles when biblical femininity is so much broader in scope. I have big issues with the current feminist movement, but I do believe and respect that it came from a place where many women were feeling trapped by their socially-prescribed roles stemming from a narrow view of biblical femininity.

    BTW, I am NOT saying that homemakers are doing it wrong. In fact, I can’t wait for my time to stay home with children. What I AM saying, though, is that instead of feeling guilty for not being today’s standard version of biblical femininity, I feel thankful that God has given me such wonderful opportunities and abilities to put to use for His glory. I work full-time in a job I greatly enjoy. When I have children, I am hoping that the skills I am building in this job will be employed then too, either as a hobby or a side-business. Does that make me less feminine? Again, I’m not saying that 100% homemakers don’t have skills, interests or personalities. Quite the contrary. I’m saying we shouldn’t be rejecting our skills, interests or personalities for the pursuit of being this one kind of Christian woman. Saying we should embrace our God-given roles but at the same time shunning the gifts HE gave us is counter-productive and damaging in the long run.

  10. I can’t wait for the release of your devotional! The pursuit of femininity has been something God has laid upon my heart, so I’m very excited to see what you have discovered about true Biblical femininity.


  11. Reading through these past post reminds me of me. Femininity as I see it is completely lost in this world’s system of behavior, thinking and all. Femininity is reflecting the glory of God in my body, behavior, carriage, dealings, way of life and communication with others. It is the way I treat myself and everyone. I have been so blessed to have worked a very challenging carrier before marriage and within marriage and I have also been blessed to have stayed at home and raised my children and all of these taught me valuable lessons in patience, forbearance, perseverance, bridling my tongue, care and love. I have discovered that I have to balance my life up in a way. There is nothing wrong with laughing, been relaxed and happy while married. Tension is not of God. We need to let go and let God take full control of our homes. We need to be hardworking and diligent and never slothful when it comes to hard work. Our father works so should we all. Scriptures is complete. Proverbs is completely right about a virtuous woman. Love is what we must apply to our children, husband, in-laws and all. God bless you all in Jesus mighty and matchless name. looking forward to this devotional. Is it already out? Stay blessed always. Jesus loves you all.
    A mother of 3 lovely children
    A wife, a volunteer at children’s church
    A student
    A worker
    A loving sister, daughter and in-law to so many.

  12. I believe femininity is about embracing the truths that God has put forward about women and mankind in general, and living your life as one created with divine purpose to bring Him glory. How that looks differs vastly from person to person, just as He intended. And I struggle with finding sources on it as it tends to be either hyper liberal (we don’t care what the Bible says… girl power!!) or hyper conservative (we add things to the Bible because we’re uncomfortable… working outside the home is evil!). This has been a breath of fresh air.