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Praying for our Husbands

on February 26, 2014 by Jami Balmet 20 comments

Praying for my husband is something that I am good at sometimes, and terrible at other times. And yet, prayer in marriage is vital. It’s vital for our lives as women, it’s vital for our roles as wives, and it’s vital for the life of our marriages!

Learning how to pray for our husbands!

Prayer as a habit

When I worked full time, I made it a daily habit to turn the radio off in my morning commute and focus on some time for prayer. But now as a stay at home (and work at home) mom, with two toddlers under foot, I hit the ground running in the morning and don’t slow down until my feet hit the bed at night.

I still do make time for prayer, but it’s usually prayers filled with “Lord help me get through this day without losing my temper again!” or “Lord WHY can’t my twins learn how to share?” It’s not often that I slow down enough to take intentional prayer time for my husband.

Life can get so busy and chaotic that such a vital thing as praying for my husband gets lost in the shuffle. Slowing down long enough to take some intentional time to pray for my husband takes the focus off of me and helps me to appreciate and love my husband more.

It’s an intentional time that I can unselfishly come before the Lord and focus on my husband. So I am challenging myself to pray more for my husband and to make it a daily habit.  And you know what? I have noticed a pattern.

The results of prayer

Prayer works!! Yes, my prayer for my husband actually works and has tangible outcomes. Please hear me say that I am in no way implying that God is manipulated by our prayer, or that prayer always gets me what I want. Okay now that’s out of the way… When I pray and ask that the Lord mold my husband into a leader of our home, over time, I notice small changes and ways that the Lord is molding him into and encouraging him as leader of our home. The Lord listens to our prayers.

And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. ~Matthew 21:22

Do I think that the Lord will give you ANYthing you ask for? If you ask for a million dollars and a new car will they be on your door step tomorrow? Probably not. But if you seek salvation and the good things of the Lord then he will supply all your spiritual needs. By praying for our husbands each day we can  encourage them and help them. How does our praying for them help them?Praying for our Husbands

Our Prayer Helps Our Husbands

1) They know we are praying for them

That right there gives my husband encouragement. It warms his heart to know that I am taking the time to think about and pray for him. It also encourages him to pray for me! 

2) Praying puts me in the right frame of mind

When I am constantly trying to be in deep prayer for my husband, it helps me to be thinking right thoughts about him. When my husband forgets to pick up the milk I asked him to get after a long day at work, it’s easy to get frustrated with him (which is just code for angry with him, which is sin). But if he has asked me to pray for him that morning because he has three stressful meetings and a busy day, then I can be more understanding of him when he forgets the milk.

3) Praying for my husband draws me closer to God

When I am intentional about praying for my husband, this is linking me deeper with the Lord. Most of the time I start out praying a quick prayer for my husband and before I know it I have spent 20 minutes praying for others in my life.

4) God listens to our prayers for our husbands

Therefore, confess your sins to one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great as it is working. ~James 5:16.

When our husband feels safe to come to us and admit his sin or shortcomings, we have the beautiful opportunity as wives to pray for them. When we ask the Lord to lead our husbands and mold them into men of God, He listens to that. The Lord knows the pure desires of our hearts {Psalm 37:4}. Will you join me in intentionally making time for praying for our husbands. It won’t happen by accident and it does take work and making time for it, but in the end, it’s so worth it for our marriages and our walk with the Lord!

Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. ~Colossians 4:2

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  1. Thank you for this encouragement! I agree, prayer is so important for our husbands. I also find it encouraging when my husband and I pray together. We like to start our day that way and it makes such a difference.

    • Starting off your day praying together is such a great idea! We always end our night praying and over meals but I love the idea of coming together in the morning and praying for the day…I might need to incorporate this into our daily routine! Thanks 🙂

  2. This is wonderful Jami! I too try to continually pray for my husband- for him to be filled with the Spirit and with wisdom from the Lord as he leads our family. I love to hear your testimony of this and it encourages me even more to continue to pray for my husband every day. -Nicole

    • Prayer can be so powerful for our husbands lives and also our own! By praying FOR my husband I feel myself being pulled closer to God. God works in wonderful ways 🙂

  3. This is so important in a marriage. When I started covering my marriage and husband in prayer, God began to work wonders. And a lot of those wonders had to do with me and my heart. How I reacted to my husband. The best gift we can give our husbands is to pray for them.

  4. Thank you! I am embarrassed to admit that I have somehow never given a lot of thought to praying FOR him. I pray ABOUT him, thanking the Lord for him in my life, but I am not the best at praying specifically for his needs. Thank you!

  5. Great post, Jami! I’ve truly been able to see God at work answering my prayers for my husband, especially since he has become open to receiving God’s blessings. 🙂

  6. I have been praying for my husband for years. I normally pray for him in the morning after he leaves for work. I had been praying the same prayer for years. To keep him safe to and from work. To keep him safe and those that work with him safe at work. And that he may be a light of Christ to those around him. After praying this prayer for several years I saw a huge change in my husband and he helped bring several of his co-workers to Christ!! I do have mornings that I get busy and forget to pray but my days don’t seem to go as well when I don’t pray.

  7. This is something that I have started focusing on lately. What an honor it is to come before the Throne on behalf of my precious husband, keeping him covered in fervent prayer!

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  9. I recently printed out a “short list of prayers for your husband” by a blogger and it’s been so helpful in leading me in prayer for my husband. This is such an important topic, thanks for your post Jami!

  10. Thank you for sharing Jami, I needed this encouragement! My husband and I have found it difficult to pray together in recent times and are trying hard to make it part of our daily routine again. It helps us to bring to each other any particular issues we are struggling with, which makes it so much easier for us to pray for each other in turn!
    I do usually pray for my husband daily, but I find when our communication isn’t as good, I struggle more with it. And it is so noticeable in our lives when I am praying/not praying!

  11. I just recently purchased a book entitled, “Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe” by Sharon Jaynes. The book is a daily guide to Scripture-based prayer and it has become my favourite (as well as my husband’s). My husband has said that since I started praying for him, using this book, he can feel my prayers in a much closer and special way.

  12. Amen to that post! Thanks for the reminder of praying for our husbands. Many times, we can get bombarded with other stuff and forget that we are a team. Team work means encouragement and prayer is truly an encouraging way. Thanks again. Love your blog!

  13. What a great post! I’m going through a book study right now called “Loving Your Husbands” and this fits right along with it. I pray for my husband’s safety everyday, but I need to do more than that. Thanks for the encouragement.
    I’m a new blogger myself (one week in!) and am hoping to meet others whose passions lie in the same place mine do. Your blog fits the bill. 🙂 Thanks again! And pop by http://www.itallmattersmom.com if you get a chance. Thanks!