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5 Ways to Grow as a Homemaker

on April 27, 2015 by Jami Balmet 32 comments

Meet Jane. Jane was a normal girl growing up. Starting in elementary school, she was asked what she want to be when she grow up. She decided early on that she wanted to be a teacher and felt that she might as well be working towards something!  Then through junior high and high school, hours of school and homework are piled on to prepare for that eventual career.

Then four grueling years are spent studying sun up to sun down in college for that next step. Upon completion of college, after 16+ years of schooling…this is it…it’s time for Jane to start her career! She graduates college, gets a teaching job, and settles into life. Until one day she meets Mr. Right, they fall madly in love, wedding bells chime, and Jane suddenly finds herself as the manager of her home…without any training!

Jane is now the primary cook, finance manager, grocery shopper, cleaner, organizer, baker, and so much more. Jane suddenly has too many hats to wear and no training to handle it!

Jane spent years preparing for her career and only minutes thinking about managing her home. Jane’s story is a familiar one to many. Jane’s story is my story!

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Homemaking IS a Career

What I didn’t understand {and so many don’t realize} is that being a homemaker is a career. My full time job is as a wife and a mother managing my home for God’s Glory! I wear 50 hats and have to be proficient {if not excellent} in many very different areas!

I came into marriage knowing very little about how to run a household. I knew how to make very basic meals and knew little to nothing about real nutrition and healthy living. I had a steep learning curve ahead of me and I am still daily learning what it means to be a Biblical homemaker.

The Excellent Wife of the Proverbs is a wonderful example to us:

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels…She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands…She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. ~ Proverbs 31:10-20

5 Ways to Grow as a (Busy) Homemaker

Homemaking is a career like any other. It takes time, attention, and forethought to do it well. You need to put the time in learning the tools of your trade!

1) Carve Out Time

Putting Dr. before your name doesn’t make you anymore a  medical doctor than getting married makes you a real God honoring homemaker. Every woman is a homemaker in the sense that her home is her responsibility  but not all woman take that responsibility seriously and actually make their home.

So decide today. This minute. That you will start dedicating some time to learning the art of homemaking. Are you single and without children? Then make large amounts of time in your week to be intentional about learning to be a homemaker. But even if you are that worn out busy mom of little ones, carve out a little time. Decide to try and cook one new meal a week for the family to improve your cooking skills and read one book a month on a skill you need to improve in. 

Anyone can find a little time to work on their homemaking skills, but only if you want it bad enough. Make the time, this is your career!

2) Make a List

I started feeling overwhelmed at everything I needed to learn as a new wife so I decided to make a list! It has been so helpful to jot down things I need to learn how to do and goals that I have. It helps keep me motivated to keep working through my list and gives me encouragement to see how far I’ve come!

My list has skills to acquire and goals from every area of homemaking. Here are a few of my goals and skills I need to work on to give you an idea:

  • Learn how to sew {so that I can repair old clothes & frugally decorate my house}
  • Sew curtains for our house
  • Learn how to make sourdough bread
  • Learn how to make & convert to natural cleaners for my home
  • Try one new recipe a week to help improve my cooking skills
  • Learn to decorate cakes
  • Practice Hospitality & have people into our home at least twice a month

Some of those skills & goals I have accomplished, some I’m working on, and some {like sewing} I haven’t even begun yet! I challenge you to start your list right now!

3) Actually Do The Things On Your List

Now, this is the difficult part…actually doing the things on your list! I know that life gets in the wife and sometimes it can seem impossible to find an extra 10 minutes, but this is important!

There will always be an excuse of why you don’t have the time…so make the time. Pick one small thing this week that you can do. Do you want to learn how to make beautiful wedding cakes to bless your family and the families in your church? Start small. Decide that you will bake a small cake this weekend for your family and try out a new recipe. START today and tomorrow you will be one day ahead!

4) Study

Becoming a homemaker not only takes a little elbow grease, it also takes studying! 

I have always wanted to learn to decorate cakes. So while in college I signed up to take a 4 week introduction decorating cake class at my local JoAnn’s. People thought I was nuts because I was also in college full time and working nearly full time. It meant one night a week away from my new hubby but it was important to me as a homemaker. I did the hard work of getting my homework done early and went to cake decorating class. Now three years later that hard work as paid off and I’m a cake decorating pro {not really but I can make a mean Mario cake ;)}! I was intentional about learning a new skill that was important to me and knew there was no time like the present!

Take a class. Ask other homemaker’s around you how they accomplish certain tasks. Ask them to show you how to make homemade bread or how to sew!

Read.Read.Read. There is a wealth of information on the internet! Let Google and Pinterest be your best friend!

Becoming a homemaker that pleases the Lord is an everyday task! It will never happen overnight and there is always something new to learn! But have fun with it, don’t get overwhelmed, and get moving on investing in your career as a homemaker!

5) Give Yourself Grace!

You can’t do it all! Stop comparing yourself to others, everyone has a different homemaking journey to walk. Are you realizing that you have ZERO homemaking skills {like I did when I first got married?}, then don’t despair! Instead, rejoice that want to fix the situation and start TODAY on becoming a great homemaker.

Don’t beat yourself up about burning dinner or having ugly curtains because you don’t really know how to sew but you are trying {both are true of me}! The important thing so to be continually working on becoming a woman and homemaker that pleases God!

Use your time wisely, honor God, and work on being an intentional homemaker! 

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  1. Timely article. I have been thinking a lot recently how homemaking is a lost art and how I married without a clue of how to be a wife and a homemaker. I can’t blame it entirely on my parents as I really had no interest in the first place in learning. In fact, I think it’s taken me 3 years of marriage to realize its even something I need to bother learning in the first place. I have a lot of work and a huge learning curve ahead of me.

    • It IS a lost art! It’s not appreciated anymore and given the tender love and attention that it should. As a young girl I wasn’t interested in learning how to be a homemaker either and now I’m paying the price by being behind other women my age. But that’s okay! I’m working hard to make up that time..and remembering not to compare myself to others!

  2. love the article! i think as home makers we have to realize that we will always be learning new things, especially as the kids grow and change their needs. after 11 years of marriage i am still learning all the time that i need to rework my schedule or my recipe book, but that is the best part of being at home! i feel so blessed to have this job and just hope and pray more women can realize how important their jobs are at home! thanks for the daily reminders of how amazing life as a home maker is! God bless!

  3. This is encouraging… and convicting! I haven’t spent the time studying and learning that I want to, on becoming a better homemaker. I’m learning SLOWLY, but I’m hoping that this summer I have more time to devote to increasing and strengthening my homemaking skills!

    Thank you especially for that last paragraph. I struggle with comparing myself with women who are better cooks, better housekeepers, better organized, better wives… but then, they’ve ALL had more years to hone their skills! As a young wife, I’m doing well for my age and experience level. I have a lot of years ahead of me, and therefore no reason to be discouraged about what I don’t know yet. 🙂

    Thank you, dear!

    • Thanks Jaimie!! When I was in school, Summer was my homemaking time!! And I did little things like making one new recipe a week on Friday’s nights during the school year. If you do those things consistantly, slowly, you can grow in your homemaking!!

      And I know! I do the same thing!! It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others isn’t it? And someone’s life may seem great on the outside {or online} but in reality things are falling apart!

      Thanks for the comment Jaimie! Love you!

  4. I really liked your idea about writing down a list of things to learn as a homemaker. I will try it! Thanks!

  5. This is a great idea. I have NO homemaking skills, I can’t even cook, but making a list is a great idea. How simple, yet I never thought of it! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  6. Minor editing point: “I know that life gets in the wife and sometimes it can seem impossible to find an extra 10 minutes, but this is important!”

    I think you mean that life gets in the way. 🙂 Otherwise this is a really nice little article. Well written.

  7. I have been feeling really overwhelmed with the lack of knowledge I have in the art of Homemaking and this really helped. I am sitting here writing my list now of all I want to learn, what a great idea! Thanks so much.

  8. Thanks for this article! I have been enjoying reading lots of articles on your blog this week! I too am a young bride, my husband and I got married last November at just 21 and 23. While we both work outside of our little home right now, we are hoping to get pregnant with our first child soon and I plan to transition to staying at home full time.

    I realized during our engagement period how important it is to learn the art of homemaking in addition to formal schooling. I grew up with a mostly stay at home single mom so I learned basic cooking, cleaning, and home maintenance but I realized that having your own home (even if it is a little one bedroom apartment!) is so different. Since that realization I have been really trying to improve in these areas. I have a feeling that your blog will be of much help as I learn and grow!

    Keep up the good work! It’s always encouraging to find other young, Christian, wives/mommas around!

  9. Timely article! I started a Pintrest account a while back specifically for keeping track of homemaking tips. Thanks so much for your tips! Will you be posting more in the future?

  10. […] recently read a post on Young Wife’s Guide about growing as a homemaker, and I was inspired by one of her suggestions: Make a […]

  11. […] Tomorrow I am excited to be sharing my personal goals in my homemaking and hopefully encourage you to develop a list of goals for yourself (if you don’t already have one). Being a homemaker means so much more than just staying home, homemaking is a career and an art! […]

  12. At first, I thought that I will ended up being a married career woman, but I feel that the Lord wants me to be a homemaker and only focus getting employment in order to get out of debt, not to support my family.

  13. Wonderful!!!! Wow, it’s nice to meet another woman who is after the same goal! I just turned 24, and have been married for only 5 years. I am so looking forward to learning more about how to manage my home and be the best wife ever. This article is encouraging, because I have JUST this week conquered my very first curtains. 🙂 Anyway, I am rambling because I live in a Christian group home with 25 men and no girls to talk home-making with. I guess I have a big, big home to manage. 🙂 Thanks for the encouragement!!

  14. Love this article!! Even after 23 years of marriage I was able to pick up a few more tips. Lists have been my greatest resource, especially when you enter the different seasons that marriage and family offers. Have a great week 🙂

  15. This is a great article and we all should strive to be a excellent homemaker and the Proverbs 31 women. A quote from Stacy Make Cents–I need my heart to be with my family 100%. I feel like that’s my calling as a wife and a mother to small children. I was trying as hard as I could to be the Proverbs 31 woman and do it all…until it was pointed out to me by a loving friend that it wasn’t possible for me to do that – and that in fact, the Proverbs 31 woman had children old enough to rise and call her “blessed.” Annie (my oldest at 4 years) arises and says “Mama, what’s for breakfast?”

    As a mother with young children This was a good reminder to me that I cant do it all! We all have to set our priorities to fit the stage of life we are in.

  16. This is a great article on a great topic! It’s so nice to find a kindred spirit. My family and friends are confused by my homemaker status. They all ask a variation of “Why can’t you just get a job?”. I reply that I have a job- I keep my home. And my husband and I have a wonderful, peaceful, abundant life without being wealthy because we provide for each other, and the Lord provides for us.

    Thank you so much for this website! I’m truly inspired. 🙂

  17. Thank you for this article. I am light years behind everyone here probably. I was raised in a dysfunctional home, ended up married and pregnant at 19, divorced at 24, remarried at 29 and raising four kids in a blended family. My sister passed away last year and I don’t have family in the area. I do have good friends and a great church! I recently rededicated my life to Christ. I am so completely overwhelmed when it comes to homemaking and my initial reaction is to run away….get a full time job and pay someone to clean, nanny, etc., because it is so hard for me to figure out! My house is messy…clean but cluttered…and I always feel way behind. I am really trying to find somewhere to start but being home is a very hard job, especially when you didn’t ease into it and have the husband and kids and combined homes right from the start. I was inspired by this post and I will keep reading. 🙂 Thank you.

  18. One challenge that so many face in homemaking these days is that society expects it to be a side gig. Rather than devote one’s life to managing the home, preparing meals, and SERVING others, society expects that women will land a job and then handle homemaking and childrearing on the side. When culture shifted and this became the norm in society, homemaking began to become a lost art for wives.

    Also, a cake-baking class sounds super fun. I’m kinda praying now that God would show me a friend to do this with!

    Katelin

  19. loved this article !….. it takes every woman a while to realise that homemaking needs continuous learning and growing just like any other profession….

  20. I love, love, LOVE this article. I became a SAHM pretty suddenly (after quitting my teaching job, ironically) and had to learn the ins and outs of homemaking pretty quickly. I based my new blog on the fact that being a SAHM is my job and I try to make the most of it everyday. Thank you for this article and the reassurance that what we do is one of the most important jobs out there!

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