Welcome to the next edition of Share Your Story: Young Wives. Today Kandace from Moments and Memories is with us sharing how she met her husband online and how young love blossomed from that.
I knew that I needed both of my parent’s approval as well as the Lord’s blessing on my future marriage in order to be completely happy and have a successful married life. As Jason and I started chatting online and holding
phone conversations, I began to realize quickly that we had the same convictions and beliefs and agreed on everything pertaining to the Christian life, aside from the fact that he was caring and considerate and fun-loving–things that I thought were important too. Eventually, I found myself naturally falling in love with him and I wanted nothing more than to be with him forever. We didn’t jump into all the emotional aspects of a relationship right at first, but developed a “best friend” relationship. And because of that, we were comfortable sharing just about anything with each other and learned to always be open with one another.
Finally the day came when I was able to meet him in person during a family camp in Washington State. I also was able to meet his family and enjoyed my time very much. I could see myself being a part of his family hopefully in the near future. Jason and I felt our hearts drawing closer and closer together and we disliked having to separate. We wanted to go deeper in our relationship and both agreed that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Aside from the fact that many miles separated us, we faced many challenges with my parents not agreeing with our decision to pursue marriage. It wasn’t easy! But it taught us to rely on each other for strength and trust in God to bring my parents around and help them understand our love for each other.
Eventually, my parents decided to visit Jason’s family. Meanwhile, all of us sat down to have a conversation. It gave all of us an opportunity to express what was on our hearts. Thankfully, my parents could see our deep love for each other and eagerness to get married, but encouraged us to wait a little longer. My father was no longer opposed to the idea! So Jason and I continued to pray for wisdom and guidance in the matter and, laying feelings/emotions aside, really felt God impressing us that it was time. We ended up getting our marriage license at the courthouse, I was 21 when we got married. My parents wished we had waited, but they now fully support our marriage and love Jason like their own son.
Note: My husband suffered a terrible accident before I met him, breaking his T3 & T4. He lost all feeling from his chest to his toes. Since then, it has been difficult for him to find work. He’s been job hunting periodically with no avail. While my parents were very understanding of this, they still wanted to be sure Jason could sufficiently support me.
Our relationship wasn’t perfect and I don’t claim to have done everything the right way, but I believe God had His hand in bringing us together because we are so fitting for each other. My advice to you is to follow your parents’ wise counsel if you have been blessed with godly parents. It is definitely not their intention to hurt your feelings or stand in your way. Rather, they love you and only want what’s best for you. It will save you from having to face many unnecessary obstacles in life.