By Jamie Roubinek, Contributing Writer
Growing up, I always dreamed of marrying a tall, dark, and handsome man.
I found him my first year out of college and fell for him immediately. His name was Jeff and I thought we were perfect for each other. But right away, he had news for me that would stop me dead in my tracks. He had two children from a previous marriage.
It was not part of my fairytale dream I had growing up.
You will never find a young girl who tells you she can’t wait to grow up and meet the man of her dreams, one who comes with children from a previous marriage.
I almost walked away, feeling this was not the man God had intended for me to spend my life with. I grew up with divorced parents and that was not the life I wanted to walk in to. I wasn’t strong enough to live the life of a step parent, or so I thought.
I began to pray about the direction I needed to take and the more I prayed, the more I was led back to Jeff. I couldn’t walk away.
The Lord revealed to me that I really was strong enough. I just needed His guidance, not my own.
I asked for it and He gave it to me.
Jeff and I married two years later, in 2007.
It remains to be one of the greatest days of my life. I promised my life to not only Jeff, but also his two children. We were an immediate family and I became something I never knew I had the strength to be — a step mom.
It is still one of the hardest jobs I’ve had in my life, but I always consider it a huge blessing.
Now, two months after the birth of my third child, we are a family of seven!
I can’t imagine what life would be like for me without each one of these precious people, and I’m so thankful God gave me the strength and guidance I so desperately prayed for seven years ago.
We have experienced so many ups and down with the trials we have faced as a blended family. Jeff and I have had to lean on each other more than I ever imagined, but these trials have only intensified our bond and made our marriage that much stronger.
I’m looking forward to sharing a little more about my life in a blended family and how we make things work, in the months ahead!
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