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You may have seen this super amazing homemaking bundle sale that is going around right now – if not, check it out HERE! Well I’ve developed a special offer to go along with the bundle for the first 30 people who purchase it through my link! You can buy your bundle HERE. (Sale ends MONDAY)

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Hospitality is an important part of homemaking but is a subject that is often ignored. As I’ve gone through my series on hospitality, I’ve realized that good quality information and practical advice on hospitality is sorely lacking! So I’ve created a great resource to get your started on practicing Biblical Hospitality.

Practical Hospitality eCourse

I have a developed an all new video eCourse that walks you through the Biblical and practical aspects of practicing hospitality! This eCourse is brand new and isn’t even available to purchase yet. If you want to get my exclusive eCourse, buy the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle then email me your receipt and I’ll send you my eCourse for FREE (but hurry – this offer is good only for the first 30 people who order through my link)!!

Included in this video eCourse {normally $29.99}:

  • 8 special video sessions on the Biblical command behind hospitality and practical tips
  • A packed eBook designed to go along with the sessions and dive deeper!
  • A members only section of the website for links, downloads, resources, and more
  • Over $34 in bonuses including printable planners, 20+ recipe cards, scripture memory printables and more!

Bonus items included in the eCourse

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The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is only on sale for 3 more days (until April 28th at 11:59PM). It’s an amazing resource packed with over 80 eBooks and over $200 in real bonus products! A $900 value that’s only $29.97. Order your very own bundle HERE. Once this deal is over in 3 days, it’s gone for good.

So I wanted to offer this Hospitality eCourse as an incentive for you to buy the bundle - Because I don’t want you to miss out! I’ve even purchased two additional bundles to give as gifts. I think every women – every homemaker – would greatly benefit from this amazing bundle offer that lasts for only 3 more days.

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So I’m sweetening the pot a bit. Order the homemaking bundle and you get my all new eCourse (normally priced at $29.99) for FREE!! Order the homemaking library HERE and then email me your receipt – jami(at)youngwifesguide(.)com. You can also learn more about what’s inside this amazing libraryBut remember – this offer is good only for the first 30 people who purchase through my link. So don’t wait – this offer will go quick!

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Preparing your home {and your heart} for Hospitality

This post is part of my series on The Joy of Hospitality: Practicing the Biblical art of serving others! You can follow along and read all posts in the series HERE.

I have a passion for hospitality and have grown to love it. But that doesn’t mean hospitality is always easy for me. In fact, when we practice hospitality monthly and even weekly, it takes a lot of preparation and planning for it to all run smoothly.

But with a little preparing, of both your heart and your home, hospitality can run a lot smoother and more efficiently. This will leave you more time to focus on the guests in your home and to be good witnesses of Christ!

Preparing your heart and home for hospitality

“Management skills are important for Christian women primarily because such skills are the key to extending hospitality with ease, enjoyment, and resourcefulness…Management helps us maximize our time, energy, and resources. Simply put, management allows us to plan and organize events so we are free to focus on our real priority – people!” Practicing Hospitality, pg 102-103, emphasis mine.

Preparing Your Heart for Hospitality

Put on Humility

Practicing hospitality takes humility. It’s so easy to fall into the sin of pride when inviting others into your home or bringing them a meal. It’s easy to make hospitality about your home or your cooking {this is what gets me}.

But at the end of the day it isn’t about either. It’s about Christ and our service to His Kingdom. We practice hospitality because we want to reach people with God’s Word and encourage them in their walk. Hospitality is a Biblical command.

Come up with a list of questions

Because hospitality is about so much more than food and center pieces, we must be intentional about keeping a Christ centered focus when practicing hospitality. It can be so easy to fall into easy chitchat about the weather, what’s happening at church, or your kid’s latest funny thing.

But to really come together for fellowship or evangelism, we must get to heart issues and really learn who our guests are. A great way to do this is to come up with a list of questions that you know you can always pull out to get conversation started.

Easy ones to get conversation started is so ask if they have lived in your town their whole life. This can lead to questions of when they became Christians. You can ask how the couple met and got married and then dig deeper into knowing them and hearing their story.

Develop your schedule for the night intentionally

Make sure you are the one leading where the night goes. Come up with a game plan before your guests arrive. If things go a bit off schedule that’s okay – but at least be prepared for a plan so your guests know an appropriate time to leave.

After dinner you can invite the family to all play a board game together. Or show the kids to the play room and offer the adults coffee and dessert so you can talk more.

Study what Biblical Hospitality Means

An important part of hospitality is the Biblical meaning. Without God’s Word guiding us, hospitality is nothing more than empty entertaining.

Study God’s Word as well as Christian books on hospitality to help give you encouragement and ideas! Here are some great resources to help get you started and a few great books I recommend are:

My favorite hospitality books

Preparing Your Home for Hospitality

Plan Ahead

I know the first few times we extended hospitality to people we didn’t know very well, it felt like it took a week to get ready. Things I don’t normally notice {such as cobwebs and dirty mirrors} were suddenly obvious to me!

I felt overwhelmed and I was exhausted after the first few people came over. But as time went on, I became more comfortable with the routine. We started practicing hospitality so often that I was always planning ahead to the next get together.

This way the house never got too out of hand. After one night of hospitality I knew I better stay on top of the house and cleaning because a new family would be in our dining room the following week!

“Planning is an important part of hospitality. Without planning you will not be prepared to meet the needs of guests, and you might miss opportunities to extend hospitality. Planning suggests you are anticipating opportunities to prepare a meal, invite a guest to stay the night, or open your home to others in some way…Any time you extend hospitality, planning is required. Unfortunately, we are often unprepared because we have not anticipated opportunities.”  Practicing Hospitality, pg 103

Stock the Pantry

Normally when we have guests into our home we make one of our family’s favorite recipes. These recipes are tried and true and I’m comfortable whipping them up while I am juggling other things {like making dessert and watching my babes}.

Plus I usually always have these ingredients in my pantry. There are many meals that I keep the staples of in the freezer and pantry so with last minute guests that day, I can still make a delicious and healthy home cooked meal!

Freezer Cooking

Freezer cooking has revolutionized the way I do cooking. Not only do I freezer entire meals, I have also become very comfortable with freezing all kinds of other things {bread, pizza dough, cooked beans, ect}.

I love having entire meals ready in your freezer to put in the oven or on the stove. This is great for last minute guests because all the cooking {and clean up} has already been done and you have all the ingredients you need!

 Practicing hospitality may seem overwhelming at first! But I promise, with a little preparation and doing it a couple of times, you will become a pro in no time!

Just remember, hospitality is far more about your heart than it is about your home! Spend time in God’s Word and ask Him to help you let go of you fears and your insecurities {i.e. PRIDE}!

Read more in this series:

Come with me on a journey to discover the Biblical art of serving others in The Joy of Hospitality Series!

Practicing Hospitality on a Dime

This post is part of my series on The Joy of Hospitality: Practicing the Biblical art of serving others! You can follow along and read all posts in the series HERE.

A common concern about practicing hospitality is the cost associated with it. This is a concern that I know all too well.

Practicing Hospitality without breaking the bank

Photo by Elin B

When I envision practicing hospitality, I picture a beautiful buffet table laid out with fancy appetizers, a wonderful dinner, yummy sides, and delicious desserts! The table is finished with beautiful centerpieces and fancy tableware {complete with amazing serving dishes for each course}.

After dinner we move into the living room where the host brings out a regal tray loaded with a beautiful tea set complete with matching cream and sugar jars.

I don’t know about you…but when I picture doing hospitality like this in my home, I think about all the money! Sure I would love to host a dinner like this but with our budget and my priorities with little kids…it’s simply not possible right now.

Hospitality Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive

“Many people don’t practice hospitality because of the expense. You don’t, however, have to impress people with sumptuous meals or be the best entertainer in your church. Hospitality is to be a service to others, not an ego inflater.” Hospitality Commands, pg. 51 {emphasis mine}

When practicing Biblical hospitality, we must remember that it’s about service to others, and not about ourselves. Do I want to impress people with my amazing cooking skills and my perfect kitchen? You bet I do!

But that’s my sinful pride talking. When you put on love and humility, those things don’t matter. What matters is welcome that new family in your home. Making them feel welcome and at home at your church.

What matters is sharing the Gospel with the new neighbors. Invite them into your home and share the Good News with them. Bring meals to the newly single mom who just needs some support and love…even if that means picking up a pizza on your way.

“Hospitality from a Biblical perspective is to recognize that God is more interested in caring relationships than the mold behind the shower curtain…It need not matter if we live in a single-room apartment or a split-level ranch, the only real requirement is allowing God to use our lives and our possessions…Our homes and our lives are indeed the most powerful combination of ministry to our world.” ~ Hospitality with Confidence, page 9

 Frugal Tips for Hospitality

Hospitality is not about having the perfect house or showing off your cooking skills. Hospitality is about meeting people where they are and learning how you can best serve them - whether that be with a warm meal or friendly conversation.

Hospitality doesn’t need to be expensive. You don’t need special skills or resources. All you need is a willingness to serve and the motivation to go do it!

“Hospitality is about a heart for service, the creativity to stretch whatever we do have available, and the energy to give the time necessary to add a flourish to ordinary events of life.” Practicing Hospitality: The Joy of Serving Others,  page 15

Host a Simple Dinner

This is our favorite form of hospitality. I love having people over to our house {plus it’s easy to put our babies to bed at 7:30 and still have the rest of the evening to enjoy our guests}. But having people over for dinner doesn’t have to be expensive fancy.

Make a simple meal of spaghetti and meatballs with a simple side salad. Or have breakfast for dinner and make french toast with fruit. The real reason you are getting together is for community, so don’t put all your focus on the food…it doesn’t matter that much!

Host Dessert and/or Coffee

This is another favorite of ours! If we have had a really busy week {or month} but still want to invite new guests into our home, we will invite them over for dessert and coffee. Sometimes I make a yummy chocolate cake. Other time we have snickerdoodles and muffins.

Keep it simple and serve the dessert {could even be store bought cookies if you are busy} and offer coffee or tea. Easy and you get to sit around and enjoy conversation and maybe a game or two!

I particularly like doing this when I have women over to my home during the week. I like to connect with women both older and younger than myself. Make a few scones and muffins once a week doesn’t put a huge financial strain on our budget and allows me to weekly have women into my home for coffee and dessert during the day.

Meet at the Park

Since we currently live in an 800 sq ft house, we don’t have a ton of room to invite large families over. So we propose meeting on Saturday at the park. Each family brings their own lunch {and I usually grab a dessert} and we have fun with our kids at the park. That way it isn’t a strain on either family!

Host a Potluck

We have a large Bible study we are part of with five other couples {plus children}! Hosting a potluck outside is a great way to show hospitality even when you don’t have a lot of room or money! Ask each couple to bring either a main or side dish and you instantly have a great party!

Ultimately, hospitality is a form of service. It’s a service that God has called all Christians to. Will it cost a few dollars extra to make spaghetti for another family? Yes. But God calls us to be good stewards of HIS money and one way we do that is by serving Him with our finances.

Read more in this series:

Come with me on a journey to discover the Biblical art of serving others in The Joy of Hospitality Series!

Why you should have (and be!) a mentor

By Rachel, Contributing Writer

never too early to mentor

Being a young wife is incredibly joyous but boy, it can be difficult.  Can I get an amen?

Why is it so hard?  A huge reason is that there aren’t that many examples out there to follow; not that they’re not there, but because getting access to the inner workings of a “successful” wife (and mom) hasn’t always been the easiest thing.  It can also be intimidating to ask for help.

Another reason is that too many women who have made homemaking and raising a family their main focus have been made to feel as if they aren’t doing something worthwhile by the world’s standards.  That means they are less apt to share their story[ies] and wisdom with other women – they feel like they’re just doing ordinary stuff and that their experiences aren’t applicable or interesting enough to be shared.  But they are!

Why you should have a mentor

Throughout the Bible, mentor-mentee relationships shaped the course of history (not to be dramatic or anything). Daniel mentored Nebuchadnezzar and this king of a huge earthly kingdom humbled himself before God.  Mordecai mentored Esther who mentored King Artaxerxes, the king liberated God’s people.  Jesus mentored the 12 apostles, they mentored hundreds of leaders including Paul, Paul mentored Titus, Timothy, and others.  Do you see where this chain reaction is going?  The Bible is obviously the source for this information but these helpful folks put together the list above plus a few more.

Many verses also back this up, like Proverbs 27:17 (iron sharpens iron), Psalm 145:4 (commending God’s good works to the next generation), Proverbs 13:20 (walk with the wise to become wise), 1 Peter 5:5-7 (be subject to elders), and, of course, Titus 2:3-5.  Many people have unpacked Titus 2 (5,310,000 hits when you google “Titus 2 Woman”) so I’m going to let you dig into that elsewhere.

What mentorship looks like

This is probably the hardest part about mentoring: how do you do it?  Where do you find one?  Pray.

Yup.  Start there.  Sounds simple, right?  Honestly, your life is full of mentors and you probably don’t even know it.  Here’s the deal: this doesn’t have to be some sort of a formal arrangement.  It will most likely evolve out of a friendship you already have with a solid-in-her-faith Christian woman who just happens to be ahead of you in some part of life: marriage, motherhood, career, walk with Jesus, etc.

But that’s just a friendship, you say.  Then start asking some questionsObserve how she speaks to her husband, how she disciplines her kids, how she runs her household.  Ask her advice on things and you’ll probably find that she’ll start including you on things that will help shape you as a wife, homemaker, mama (if you’re so blessed with kiddos).  You should also ask her to hold you accountable especially if don’t have that elsewhere.  You’d be surprised at the stories that she might share from her past that will encourage you in your own present situation.

love and logic parenting reminders

Why you should be a mentor (and how to do it)

I’m guessing you’re on this site because you are a young wife (young at heart counts too!) or aspire to be one.  You have lessons you’ve learned the hard way and/or you’ve found things that help make your walk with Christ, marriage, and/or motherhood work well.  Guess what?  Everyone to whom much was given, of him (or her!) much will be required (Luke 12:48).  So don’t be bashful.  When you have the chance to be a mentor through an existing friendship, take full advantage of that.  Encourage her to make better choices than you did (if you’re like me and messed up a lot) or to follow your examplePray for and with herBe intentional about spending time with her.  You’re not trying to make her a mini-you…you’re letting God show Himself to her through your life.

My own mentor/mentee journey

Two women in my own life have acted/still act as mentors and I’m pretty sure they don’t even know it.  Both of them I met while we worked together at a summer camp for abused and neglected children – you could tell right there they were women worthy of following (and not just on Pinterest!).  They started including me in their lives to varying degrees and I got to watch their marriages as they started having children, transitioned careers, and navigated day to day life as Christ followers.

I had housecleaned and babysat for Mihkai throughout college and 2 weeks after we got married, she asked if my husband and I would like to join their marriage Bible study.  I was intimidated and scared but we decided to go for it and our marriage is stronger than it ever would have been if she hadn’t sent that simple email.  Every time I cleaned their house or babysat, I would think to myself, “I want to be a woman like her,” because of their wedding vows kept printed out on their fridge, the love and logic parenting notes they kept printed over the sink, and the babysitter binder that was always ready if I needed it.  What a great example!  And then she invited us to share in it with them.

wedding vows on the fridge

Sasha also has led by example in many of the same ways as Mihkai – I’ve gotten to observe how she keeps her home in order, how she prioritizes time with her husband and children, and how she keeps Christ at the center of everything she does, big or small.  Recently, she invited me to her home for an informal chat with a woman she looks to as a mentor.  There were several women there, all of them with kiddos much older than mine (9 months!), so they talked a lot about homeschooling, sibling issues, living out faith at home, etc.

I asked Sasha why she invited me and she replied, “It will be here before you know it and I wanted you to start getting prepared now.”  She’s not a formal mentor but she sees that she saw an opportunity to speak into my life as a Christian, a woman, a wife, and a mama and she took it.

Who is already in your life that could be a mentor to you?  Who could you mentor?

Overcoming The Fear of Hospitality

This is a guest post by Karen Yates at Finding Rest.

Two months ago, I hosted my first dinner party.  Ever.  To say I was nervous is an understatement.  I was 35 years old and petrified.

I never learned how to set a fancy table or make a 5 course meal.  I mean, where does a grown woman learn to be Martha Stewart, if it isn’t modeled to her when she’s young? 

And I never minded that I never learned.  I grew up in a small town, and my house was the house where all my friends gathered—we’d swim in our pool, play ping pong, play board games, watch movies, and eat buckets of popcorn.

I may not have been taught how to embellish a pasta, but my parents taught me to greet with a smile, have authentic conversation, say thank you and mean it.  And that was always enough.

Since moving to Orange County, though, I’ve watched many friends, most of whom are from ‘the OC,’ host incredible dinner parties, plating their food, drizzling with teriyaki glazes and fresh pineapple pinched with cinnamon.

Tables are decorated with seasonal centerpieces, votives, cloth napkins, fancy wines.  Evenings are themed and sometimes rated, and everything about the night, from the food to the conversation to the decoration is first-class, stunningly gorgeous.

I’ve wanted to reciprocate.  I’ve wanted to fit.  But I have an ill-equipped kitchen and zero confidence.  Not to mention, I’m trying to be myself—and myself serves frozen chocolate chips over a game of Settlers of Catan.

One thing I questioned, if this is how they show their love for me, how they ‘do’ friendship, (serving me a lovely meal in a lovely way), are they disappointed that I’ve never done anything remotely similar for them?

I’ve never meant to only be a taker.  I’ve just been afraid to try to play catch with a bunch of major leaguers.

{You know that scene in My Best Friend’s Wedding when Cameron Diaz sings karaoke and makes a fool of herself?  Yeah, I was pretty sure that was going to be me—except over cheap flatware.}

Two months ago, I decided enough was enough.  I was sick of feeling inadequate.  I spilled the beans to my neighbor—a confession—“I’ve never hosted a dinner party before.”  She was so encouraging, and so loving, and so not judgmental.  “I will help you,” she offered.  And the planning began.

I invited a few precious friends and their spouses for dinner.  (These friends I trusted would love me even if the whole thing flopped.)  I had diarrhea for 24 hours before hand (um, did I say that out loud?)—yes, I was that nervous.  I started setting up 8 hours early.  I recruited the help of my gracious neighbor, who loaned me place settings and serving platters and wine glasses.

I swept my kitchen and vacuumed floors.  She helped me set the table, roll the napkins, decorate centerpieces.  I planned an Italian menu, and suggested my guests bring with them something to read/share about what they’ve been learning.   And by the time they arrived, I was so overwhelmed with joy.  Because I did it.

35 years old is not too late to learn something new.

What insecurity are you up against as a mother or homemaker or friend?  What might you gain by trying something new or intimidating?

I want to encourage you—if I can do it, you can do it.  The first step is deciding to try.


Karen Yates is a writer, blogger, non-profit consultant, and homeschooling mother of 3.  A lover of sushi and Chopin, Karen writes about Christian culture, mommy parables, radical living, books, and finding rest in God.  She lives in southern California and blogs at www.KarenEYates.com.